July 6, 2015 – That was the last time I blogged. Was it a significant blog? Was it a memorable blog? It didn’t feel that way to me. It felt like just another “update.” Another “I need to post something” … post.

For months now I have struggled with blogging. Everything I’ve posted feels like endless dribble. A bunch of “blah, blah, blah” followed by a pretty photo or two. And so every time I would sit down to write, there would be nothing. I would stare at the screen and feel … nada. My husband would say “You need to let them in. You need to share pieces of who you are. You need to be vulnerable. You need to be real.” Can I tell you that scared the hell out of me? Because if you really “knew” me, would you still like me?

A few weeks ago we attended an amazing business conference. A “boot camp” for entrepreneurs. It was a “push you out of your comfort zone” weekend. I was immersed with like-minded people all striving to live life deliberately. We were challenged, encouraged, and inspired. One of the main takeaways I came home with was “connection”.

Tom Ford


How often do you really “connect” with others? How often do you take the time to ask someone “How ARE you?” and you really, truly, want to know how they are? Or do you just pass people by without even noticing. There’s the young man at the grocery store that always offers a smile when he puts your bags into your cart but you never smile back. The coffee house barista you’re too hurried to talk to because you’re in the drive through line and don’t want to hold up the cars behind you. The owner of the take-out restaurant who remembers your favorite order but you can’t remember her name. I have spent DECADES not really connecting with others. The old me would say “Well, that’s just who you are. You’re shy. You’re quiet. That’s just your personality.” Well NO MORE! I’m changing!

Now when I get my coffee, I #GetOutOfTheCar. And, here’s the funny thing. Even after going inside and chatting with the barista for a couple minutes and then walking back out, I’m still getting my coffee quicker than those people in the car line. Crazy, right??? By the way. My barista’s name is John and he used to work at the dry cleaners we use (I thought he looked familiar!) John is studying to be an aerospace engineer and hopes someday to work with Elon Musk at SpaceX. So Elon, if you read this, keep an eye out for John. He’s a good guy.

Our time on Earth is short. How many people do we pass by on a daily basis that we haven’t connected with? It may only last for a minute or two, but we CAN connect. And friends let me tell you, it’s addicting! We all crave this. To be seen. To be heard. To know and be known.

Be Somebody

So I am letting this post be a declaration, a creed if you will, that I will not fall back to my “old ways”. Every day forward from here, until I exit stage left, I will connect. I will laugh more (without fear of how my laugh might sound), I will dance more (without fear of looking silly). I will sing more, play more and connect more. So, if our paths happen to cross one day or if we are already friends and you see me, I will make the effort to connect with you. I will “get over myself” and seek to hear you, to understand you, to love you.

Don’t worry. I’ll still be posting about Interior Design. It’s my passion. I’m just going to show the person behind that passion. The PEOPLE, behind the passion. Why Interior Design is so important to me. Why YOU are so important to me.

So join me, won’t you? Commit to connection. See the person that no-one sees.   Take a moment. Introduce yourself. Get to know them. Feel the connection.

Never too late

Tell me how it goes. I want to know. Together we can get out of our own way … and make life just a little bit better for all of us.



Living Deliberately,



Photo Via: Mr. Walt Breslin


14 thoughts on “#ImChanging”

  1. cyndy says:

    Yay!! So glad to see you’re gonna blog a little more and share more of you with us! Can’t wait to see what you have in store! You are such a joy and bring so much inspiration and I’m thrilled that you want to share more! xoxo

  2. Great post, Amanda! I can definitely relate and have often felt the same way. It takes a lot of courage to open yourself and be vulnerable to others, but like you my experience has been that the effort is so rewarding!

  3. ange says:

    Welcome back to blogging after your break! Great idea, we all need to be more intentional connecting, especially in the “digital age” that we know live in where people are busy staring at phones and not making real human connections. I do want to say though that you made it a point to connect with me after the Haven Conference a few years ago. It’s easy to go about doing life and not really paying attention to others, we all do it. Thank you for opening up and sharing your heart today!

    1. Amanda Eck says:

      I couldn’t agree more! and Yes life often times gets in the way of connecting with others. Thank you for commenting Ange!

  4. Great post Amanda. I’m inspired!!

    1. Amanda Eck says:

      Thank you Joann! xoxo

  5. Catherine says:

    Great post!

  6. ovbal says:

    Welcome back! Hoping to see more inspiring post from you. Regards!

  7. Vicki Hatch says:

    Dear Amanda,
    Thank you for the inspirational post. I wanted you to know that I do watch for your posts and very much enjoy them! I can only imagine the challenge of being inspired on a daily basis, but it appears that you’ve found a deep well within yourself. Thank you for sharing such a personal view. I am shy and have always struggled with sharing my true self to the world. You’ve given me new resolve to try not be quite so introverted. Thanks! Vicki

    1. Amanda Eck says:

      Vicki- Thank you for this! I am exited and encouraged to know that others feel the same. Your comment just made my day!!
      Thank you!

  8. Wonderful declaration Amanda! I’m with you. I stopped blogging as well thinking I have nothing earth shattering to say and if I do blog, who really cares? ( sounds like a pity party). But life, for me, is all about connecting with people and being real so thank you for the push and inspiration. I already feel closer to you today! Happy holidays. Xo Nancy

    1. Amanda Eck says:

      Thank you Nancy! xoxo

  9. Emma says:

    So glad to see you back Amanda. You’ve always being great and I believe you will become even better with the changes.

    Happy Holidays!!

  10. Lexi says:

    Just realized that you were back from your blogging break. YES! What a wonderful and inspiring post, THANK YOU! Your words have not fallen on deaf ears, taking the time to really connect with other humans is so important. So glad to have your voice back, I am sure that all of your readers have missed you.

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