July 6, 2015 – That was the last time I blogged. Was it a significant blog? Was it a memorable blog? It didn’t feel that way to me. It felt like just another “update.” Another “I need to post something” … post.
For months now I have struggled with blogging. Everything I’ve posted feels like endless dribble. A bunch of “blah, blah, blah” followed by a pretty photo or two. And so every time I would sit down to write, there would be nothing. I would stare at the screen and feel … nada. My husband would say “You need to let them in. You need to share pieces of who you are. You need to be vulnerable. You need to be real.” Can I tell you that scared the hell out of me? Because if you really “knew” me, would you still like me?
A few weeks ago we attended an amazing business conference. A “boot camp” for entrepreneurs. It was a “push you out of your comfort zone” weekend. I was immersed with like-minded people all striving to live life deliberately. We were challenged, encouraged, and inspired. One of the main takeaways I came home with was “connection”.
How often do you really “connect” with others? How often do you take the time to ask someone “How ARE you?” and you really, truly, want to know how they are? Or do you just pass people by without even noticing. There’s the young man at the grocery store that always offers a smile when he puts your bags into your cart but you never smile back. The coffee house barista you’re too hurried to talk to because you’re in the drive through line and don’t want to hold up the cars behind you. The owner of the take-out restaurant who remembers your favorite order but you can’t remember her name. I have spent DECADES not really connecting with others. The old me would say “Well, that’s just who you are. You’re shy. You’re quiet. That’s just your personality.” Well NO MORE! I’m changing!
Now when I get my coffee, I #GetOutOfTheCar. And, here’s the funny thing. Even after going inside and chatting with the barista for a couple minutes and then walking back out, I’m still getting my coffee quicker than those people in the car line. Crazy, right??? By the way. My barista’s name is John and he used to work at the dry cleaners we use (I thought he looked familiar!) John is studying to be an aerospace engineer and hopes someday to work with Elon Musk at SpaceX. So Elon, if you read this, keep an eye out for John. He’s a good guy.
Our time on Earth is short. How many people do we pass by on a daily basis that we haven’t connected with? It may only last for a minute or two, but we CAN connect. And friends let me tell you, it’s addicting! We all crave this. To be seen. To be heard. To know and be known.
So I am letting this post be a declaration, a creed if you will, that I will not fall back to my “old ways”. Every day forward from here, until I exit stage left, I will connect. I will laugh more (without fear of how my laugh might sound), I will dance more (without fear of looking silly). I will sing more, play more and connect more. So, if our paths happen to cross one day or if we are already friends and you see me, I will make the effort to connect with you. I will “get over myself” and seek to hear you, to understand you, to love you.
Don’t worry. I’ll still be posting about Interior Design. It’s my passion. I’m just going to show the person behind that passion. The PEOPLE, behind the passion. Why Interior Design is so important to me. Why YOU are so important to me.
So join me, won’t you? Commit to connection. See the person that no-one sees. Take a moment. Introduce yourself. Get to know them. Feel the connection.
Tell me how it goes. I want to know. Together we can get out of our own way … and make life just a little bit better for all of us.
Photo Via: Mr. Walt Breslin